June 26, 2008
Leave the Kids at Home
Have you ever been somewhere and the kids acted up so you just left. Today we were on our way to the grocery store and stopped by the bank. I let the girls get suckers which is a treat because they are not allowed sweets before lunch. Miriam was not happy with the flavor she got and wanted Lily's. She forced Lily to take her sucker, but Lily was already licking hers. Miriam threw a little fit and Lily offered her sucker, but Miriam wouldn't take it because it was already licked. I wasn't far from the house so I turn around and head home. this causes Miriam to get more upset. Then something happened and I took away everyone's sucker. this made Lily cry for her sucker. then we got home and they wouldn't get out of the van and were screaming and crying. Of course, one of my neighbors was out walking his dog. We did go back out later and all was fine, but it did mess up my day and put me in a bad mood. I think my hormones are changing again. I have just not been very patient lately. Part of it is the stress of getting the house fixed up. I was kinda proud of myself for sticking to my word of going home. I often threaten this, but won't leave when I have a buggy full of stuff. I don't know why kids don't get used to running errands with their mother. They fight in the buggies, touch everything when they walk, run off, cry for a toy or candy, etc. It seems like no matter what I try, they can't be good the whole time. Am I asking to much??
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It's rare that we actually have a day out where I don't contimplate going home. This past wednesday, it happened as soon as we got to church. I would have went home right away if it didn't just cost me like $10 in gas to get there. lol
I don't think you're asking too much. But, I know what's it's like to have the shopping cart full and then just throw up my hands and say, "Let's go."
Even this afternoon... I'm having a hard time knowing whether or not my "threats" are just idle. My two girls want me to call a friend's mom to see if we can "get together." (fyi: "Get together" is their solution to not inviting themselves over to someone's house. LOL!) However, I've told them time and again that they need to get along with each other and not bug me if they truly want to "get together" with a friend. So, my difficulty in all of this is determining how many "threats" are too many and how many "But I wasn't trying to bug you" statements I can "take."
Don't know if any of this makes sense. But, I hope somehow it helps to know you're not alone.
Amy - I there with ya! There are many days when I wait till my hubby gets home just to do the shopping. I have left a few full carts near the check out, apologizing as I dragged my angels out the door.
HUGS!
Hi, I'm here through Suzanne's link. I've been there-many years ago! I think the most important thing is to only threaten them if you plan to follow through with that consequence, and then you must follow through. I wrote about this on a post recently called "saying no to your kids."
Rarely my threats were to leave because I think that gives kids too much power. Afterall, I was there for a reason (except for maybe something that revolved around them, like a kid's party). My most common mo was to get alone with me in the bathroom or something to get a serious talking to!
Parenting little ones is HARD. Just try to be consistent and mean what you say as much as possible.
Thanks for sharing your frustrations!
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